crafting the best Hinge openers [w. examples]
DEEP, sensual or sexual?
These are my most used openers that lead to amazing convos 90% of the time.
Note: You have to send the right one to the right person.
I break down the skill on how to read a person below. This is the only way to come up with the best opener.
Key takeaways
There is only one amazing opener for every match you get. This opener consists of 3 ingredients:
Emotional Element [I break down what this is below]
Stimulation [Newness, a sense of uniqueness]
Playfulness / Lightheartedness [Keep the first line short and sweet]
In order to get these right, you’ll have to do some research.
This will save you a lot of time, because it will help you build emotional connection at an early stage (=attraction)
instead of small talk that risks loosing/boring her.
incredible Opener ingredient 01: Emotional Element
Finding that emotional element is the most important part of getting the opener right. What this is, is something she really cares about or values, it’s what takes up the most space in her mind.
You then want to push that button and tickle her mind in the right places.
An emotional element can be anything from jewellery [aesthetics] to endeavors to character traits, to longing [for travels, for safety].
It all comes down to what you believe is taking up a lot of space in her mind. Is she intellectual or more hedonistic judging from her profile?
incredible opener ingredient 02: stimulation
Make her feel special and she’ll immediately see you as special.
Significance is a human need.
But a generic compliment will not make her feel special, however, complimenting her on her emotional element will.
Especially if you can enhance the feeling of newness through selecting your words carefully.
Go for the words that aren’t the obvious.
Truth is: Humans today are addicted to stimulation/newness, so use that to your advantage.
Use unusual wording, make up your own words even. Use words that have emotions attached to them.
This will make you come off as charismatic.
incredible opener ingredient 03: lightheartedness
Now, it’s easy to overdo after all this oberservation, it but it’m important to have that playfulness this early on.
So never write a long opener in one message.
Keep it short and sweet, but if you are going to write several sentences, make sure you send them one by one and not in one text.
Maaaybe extent letters in words to bring in more playfulness. I’m not big on emojis, I don’t think it’s sexy, but they can elevate playfulness.
Apart from checking out her profile closely, I’ll sometimes even
Google her
Check her instagram
Check if she has a public Spotify profile to see what she listens to
Check her sign
Ask myself what she does on her sparetime based on her profile
My 2 best openers [examples]
“The fortune teller”
Say her emotional element is music. She works with PR for Sony music for example. And she has musical references in her profile.
I would write an opener. “If you were a Song I think you’d sound like this”. Send her a spotify link. Then break down the emotions/traits that song has and how it reflects her. [Playful / but also sensual]
Intellectual
For the more goal-oriented, ambitious type of girl, I’ll usually ask what’s getting focus in her life at the moment. This is a much better alternative than to ask “who are you”.
She get’s to decide what gets her focus and it naturally progress into a pretty deep convo.
Once you’ve built enough intrigue with your opener on Hinge you can ask her out in a casual way or ask for her number
