How to be successful on feeld [Blueprint]
ALGORITHM | photos | sensual > sexual | messaging | Location
key findings after 100+ feeld dates arranged
This article is based on everything I’ve put together in the Feeld blueprint [For anyone new on the app who wants to start dating tonight].
The factors covered here are visual storytelling, proper presentation, charismatic/sensual interaction, bio examples, feeld profile tips, and how to build tension:
Key Takeaways
Optimize for the algorithm [through desires, bio, and interests]
Learn visual storytelling and know how to highlight your most attractive traits [crucial!]
Master the art of great presentation through Lightroom
Interact in a way that creates good experiences [The S.E.M.C. system]
Experiment with your location to get momentum [London has the most users at this point, and that’s where I got 143 likes in one day]
My personal experience
“Most people on Feeld, men and women, are not 100 % sure how to use the app yet [even though it’s 9 years old].
It’s like when Tinder first came, people thought they had to be really sexy/flirty with every line.
The evolution of online dating has shown that users' experiences and societal perceptions of dating apps, like eHarmony and Tinder, have significantly transformed over time.
I’ve written this article and will guide you through some of my insights and Feeld tips. Let’s get to it.
//Marcus
Exploring the app’s unique approach to relationships
Feeld supports a variety of alternative relationship structures, including:
Polyamory: The practice of having multiple romantic relationships simultaneously, with the knowledge and consent of all parties involved.
Non-monogamy: Engaging in multiple sexual or romantic relationships outside of a primary relationship, again with the consent of all involved.
Kink: Exploring unconventional sexual desires or practices, which can range from BDSM to role-playing and beyond.
Feeld’s inclusive design welcomes individuals and couples of all genders and sexualities.
Unlike other dating apps, Feeld provides a unique space where you can be your true self and find others who appreciate you for it, whatever that is. Doesn’t have to be anything “special” either.
optimizing the feeld algorithm
Alright, so just like any other dating app, the algorithm will try to match you based on what you put in your dating profile.
It’s therefore crucial to get the desires and interests right, to optimize for the algorithm to find the right matches for you.
Including details about alternative relationship structures can also help in finding matches that align with your preferences.
Self Awareness
Step one is to break down what you are truly looking for on the app. “Hookups” are not enough. Are you open to casual encounters?
What do your sexual fantasies consist of? What are you curious about? This is the App to really explore these things so take a moment to break this down. Are you interested in casual sex, group sex or something more serious?
Desires
Make sure you are fully aware of what all the desires really mean. Some of the popular abbreviations you’ll see a lot are:
FWB - Friends with benefits
ENM - Etichal Non Monogamy
ONS - One-night stands
The more you think through what you actually want, the more specific you can be; this will not only help the algorithm but make you more attractive. People who know what they want are considered sexy.
Interests
Interests are more tied to personal hobbies but when typing these you should have three main focuses:
How can you increase your attractiveness value? [We’ll break this down in a second]
Contrasting - Is there any way for you to add depth to your personality?
If you have any very unique interest - add it. It’ll make you stand out and be a great conversation starter [CTA].
Attractive value
Some certain skills and interests are just considered attractive. We all have a few of these. Your interests reveal your traits to some extent. Cooking is considered a sexy skill for example.
Any interests that make you seem intellectual are generally considered sexy. Any hobby where you work with your hands is sexy (carpeting, turning, massaging, etc).
I also think it’s great to add interests that make you come out as easy-going, leisure-based ones. The reason is that meeting strangers (through apps) can sometimes feel like a commitment.
If people assume you are a fun and simple person, they are more likely to actually go on that potential date with you.
Contrasting
The app is essentially connecting complete strangers. Whenever you meet a new person you are going to make assumptions about that person, based on your past experiences. This is how our brains work, we immediately put people in boxes.
People will do the same about you, they’ll look at your photos and make assumptions of you. What I want you to do is try to evaluate if there might be any negative traits people are going to connect to your photos.
Self-absorbed? Then put something in your bio that contrasts that. For example, something that states self-distance, that you don’t take yourself too seriously.
Contrasting is basically about controlling any negative first impressions that people might make about you.
Improving photos on your dating profile to get better matches
Now, your best photos together with your conversational skills are the two most important factors that will determine your success on Feeld. Avoid making your best photos private, as it may limit your chances of finding connections.
Visual storytelling is the skill of showing the best sides of you through photos. Learn this once and you’ll be successful on any dating app, forever.
To give you an idea, I [M32] got 143 likes on Feeld on day 1 using the same photos I use on Tinder and Hinge. That’s because my photos signal confidence, mystery, creativity, significance, passion, and leadership. I reveal what my profile looks like in my free course.
Secondly, I have learned the skill of presentation. What this essentially means is learning how to make your photos more appealing. Applying filters is not the way to go. Let’s break down the essentials below:
Composition
You want to make it look like you’ve been captured in the moment. Maybe smiling. Maybe doing something you like. Think about the scenes and the director here. Think about the background/environment; think about what you’re wearing. Think about your posture. Being outside can be beneficial but not necessary.
Light
Natural light (from the sun) is usually best, and you want to find spots and angles where the light brings out your best features. Light intensity varies throughout the day, so always be aware of how the light falls and the intensity of it. The golden hour is when the sun sets, bringing out those golden tones.
Camera
Smartphones are good enough. You can get sexy textures from old analog cameras, but it’s not essential. You should always edit your photos anyway.
Angles
Like with everything else, experiment a ton. Different angles will bring out different features of you.
Once you think you've taken plenty. Take some more. Then it’s time to edit them.
Cropping
The way you crop a photo can make it so much more pleasing to look at. It comes down to the lines in the image and placement of these (not actual lines, but like if you would turn the photo into a geometric figure, where would the lines be). You’ve probably heard of the Golden section. Don’t worry too much about this, but know that how you crop your photo can put things slightly off (from, say, the center), which can make it more appealing to the human eye. Experiment!
Lightroom
Editing photos is a hard skill. Because you are not trying to make it look edited. You just want to bring out what’s already good about the photo. And maybe tone down anything that’s less pleasing. It’s pretty nuanced stuff. The Lightroom app from Adobe has everything you need. Focus on playing with the light (exposure etc) and colors (saturation etc).
Taking and editing photos is an excellent skill to acquire. But if you want the best possible profile, let someone with a good eye take your photos. I’ll say it one last time: Experiment a lot!
Faceapp
Faceapp can make subtle changes to your face. And one could argue about the ethics of this. But if you’ve taken a really great photo, but you just wish you were smiling more, I say go into Faceapp and bring that smile out a bit. Possibly toning down the rings under your eyes or so. However, I do not support changes in facial features or any other major changes. This app can be used in quite an unhealthy way, so be aware of that.
Sensual > sexual even for casual hookups
All of the dating apps, Tinder and Feeld in particular, struggle with trust issues. Particularly from men not being respectful towards women. Usually in the form of sending overly sexual messages or on Feeld, unwanted nude photos.
Now, Feeld is definitely an app where you can send nudes, that are appreciated, but you have to do it the right way.
Feeld users primarily use the app for kinky hookups, poly exploration, threesomes, and play-party sourcing. That’s what we’ll break down in this section.
How this will help you increase your matches
You absolutely don’t have to be sexual in any way on Feeld, you can arrange dates in a very casual way. But since this is a more tolerant app you have the possibility to get a little spicy to hype up your dates.
It’s then crucial to get it right, positive interactions will lead to more matches while negative ones can [in the worst case] result in a ban or a shadow ban [your profile isn’t visible to others without you knowing].
What most people find attractive
My experience is that men are more visual, and easily get attracted by half-naked women.
For women, however, it’s more about creating a story and connection. This is why “dick pics” is such a problem. It’s because women do not find a penis without context sexy, instead it’s very off-putting.
If you want to build tension in the chat on Feeld, you have to be able to build story-based images verbally, that match his/her desires. And when enough emotional connection is built, you can increase the tension by sending photos. Leave most of it to the imagination, so focus on revealing skin or body parts that aren’t obvious to start with. If it lands well you can proceed.
Note, that not everyone appreciates texting or “sexting” if you wish. So you’ll want to check in on this first. At all times, don’t start a conversation by sending a nude photo. This results in people unmatching and will be terrible for your visibility.
At all times: Show respect. Feeld registers data for every interaction. Make sure those are positive.
MEssaging on feeld
Now, we’ve covered bringing the spice to your convos. But most of your conversations will be about connecting with like-minded people and arranging dates.
Feeld is known for its inclusivity, offering a diverse range of gender identities, including 'gender questioning,' to create a safe space for users exploring their identities. So it’s essential to cover this as well. Remember, the algorithm is user-signal based, and if you know how to create positive experiences → better visibility → More matches.
Being Charismatic in text
When messaging on Feeld, using original words not everybody uses is a great way to stand out. Use the lesser-known synonyms. You can even make up your own words; it’s playful, creative, and stimulating.
Being charismatic is really just about being open and confident with what you care about and value in life. This is why I always recommend writing out details when answering questions. If she asks you generic stuff like what you are up to, always give it some spice with some unexpected details that make you stand out from the masses.
Location
I think this is pretty obvious to most people, that’s why I haven’t covered it earlier in the article. But know that Feeld is still developing and it will be tough to get matches unless you live in a big city or have a Majestic Membership.
Feeld is really good in European cities such as Berlin, London and Barcelona. It’s also good in cities such as New York or Los Angeles in the US compared to other apps, where users' intentions can be harder to discern.
But if you live in a smaller city, know that your location could be the reason you aren’t getting the matches you are expecting. I encourage you to try out the “explore” setting in the app and set it to London (which in my experience has the most active users at this point).
Summary: how to be successful on feeld?
The key to being successful on Feeld is to optimize your profile and interactions. Start by clearly defining your desires and interests to help the algorithm match you accurately. Enhance your profile with compelling photos that showcase your best traits. Focus on visual storytelling, natural light, and proper editing. Engage in charismatic and respectful communication, building connections through creative and detailed messages.
